As women we want to have a wonderful career while building our wonderful family, right? You have probably heard that all will be fine as long as you keep your personal life and your work life in balance. The question is; what does that mean? Basically it means that you are setting yourself up for failure since balance implies a state of equilibrium and nothing in life is ever really balanced. When trying to find the right combination of work-life balance you become exhausted and walk around being eaten alive by the guilt of not knowing how to obtain that balance. You find yourself feeling like you are letting everyone down – your family and your career.
It’s time to put a stop to those feelings and start learning a better way of finding “balance” between your personal and professional life. To do this efficiently you must first create a family plan and then reconcile against your business plan. The family plan should include the goals and responsibilities of the marriage and family and then the business plan should have the same – the point of reconciling is to make sure that the family plan and/or the business plan complement each other and doesn’t create a competition between the two. However, some professional women may even find balancing extremely difficult and their marriages may suffer as a result.
A family plan can possibly serve as a map and compass for your career, it should have the time that is needed to spend with family for things such as date night, family time and the like. When creating your business plan it should have long-term goals as an individual, as a couple/family, and for the company/professional. Everything should be viewed as a whole and not in isolation of each other, this will be helpful so that things fall into place or is synced up with each other. It also helps to discuss these plans with significant others or family members who you will rely on for help and want to make time for.
You may need to set up boundaries between your personal and professional life in order to keep your plan on task. Sometimes that means schedule your time when you check your work emails at home so that it doesn’t interfere with your dinner or that alone/family time that you have carefully set up in your plan. While at home you should stay fully and emotionally present with your family and at work you should do the same. With the demands of our careers, it can be difficult not to bring work home say to meet an upcoming deadline and to complete a task that was overlooked during your time in the office. As such, if you are trying to balance work-life, then it is best not to bring work into this sacred space called home. In fact, separating the two is vital in order to maintain work-life balance. Being present with your significant other is as equally important.
I am the queen of multi-tasking, as probably many of us are. This was probably inherited from a very early age and some habits such as this can use a little adjusting. You have to know when it is time to step away from your professional life and live in those small precious moments that will mean so much to you tomorrow as a memory. You must learn how to balance your personal/work life in order to really find true success in both.
Do you need help with formatting a plan in both your personal and professional life? Could you use a lifestyle design change?
Mavis Kelley, CHHC, AADP is a Certified Integrative Health and Wellness Life Coach specializing in nutrition, health, fitness, well-being, and lifestyle design. For more information or to schedule a breakthrough session, please contact her at: Mavis@nspirehealthyliving.net or visit her website at: http://NspireHealthyLiving.com.